Monday, December 10, 2012

Parenting Christmas Lights

Yep - you read that right.  I think there's a major parallel here between kids and Christmas lights.

As I was putting them up, I came across some tangles - of course.  The harder I pulled, the tighter they became.  And, then it was even harder to untangle them.  Only if I gently, slowly, looked for where the knot started, and carefully undid it, did it come clean nicely.

You see it, don't you?

Last night, after I asked my daughter to clean up her lego wrapper mess on the chairs in the dining room, I saw her start to climb on top of the table.  Putting Scream Free Parenting aside, I took her head off - she began to sob majorly and then replied back in a very sad manner;  "I was getting your trash, too, that's in the middle of the table."
Don't you hate it when that happens?
It took her a while to calm down, lots of back-rubbing and apologizing on my part.
It would have been way easier if I had waited to see what she was doing before I decided to blow up.  We probably could have avoided the whole thirty minute quieting scene that followed the explosion.

Message:  Don't pull hard when trying to untangle - look for where the knot is, and gently, slowly, unravel - or, just wait and let it come out all on it's own.  And, if you pull too hard - you just might break the lights.

Thursday, December 6, 2012

I Took Food From a Homeless Woman Today

We were having lunch together.  Next to her chicken and potatoes was a piece of corn on the cob.  She doesn't have enough teeth to eat it.  But, since it was already on her plate, she couldn't give it back, so she offered it to me and I took it.  It was actually quite tasty.  We had a wonderful meal together.  Sandra (not her real name) and I are sisters.  All we talk about is Jesus.  We haven't seen each other in about a month so we had a lot of catching up to do - we shared more than a meal, we shared tears and laughter;  and I want to go back again and again and do it all the time.
I'm addicted to it.
There's a reason Jesus tells us to take care of "the least of these".

I made another woman sore and breathless (she really did it, I just told her what to do).
She wanted a workout - we both loved every minute of it.  Why?  Because at the end she said, "I did it!  I finished a workout - I'm so proud of myself!"
Who wouldn't want more of that?

But then I heard something.  I heard that one of the older women there had been talking about my daughter - on more than one occasion.  And ya know what she says?  She says, "that little six year old was the one who played carpet ball with me and finally taught me how to have some good, clean fun!"

2 Corinthians 8:14 says "Your plenty will supply what they need, so that, in turn their plenty will supply what you need."  Supposedly, this means that as we give to those in need, one day, we may be the ones in need and someone can give back to us.  But, I would like to propose a different meaning;  As we give out of our abundance to others, we will see how much they really have to offer us - something our hearts deeply need.  Something that we want more and more.

"It's in the places where you're not supposed to belong that you'll learn the most.
It's with the people you were never supposed to meet that you come to understand the world better...
And it's in those people that you really encounter Jesus in a way you never knew him before."
- Jim Wallis

Today was one of those days.  And it was very, very good.